HOT BODY = CONFIDENCE?
Think again...
No matter how 'hot' you are, or appear to be (or how hot others think you are), no matter how 'hot' you think you need to be or can doll yourself up to look...
It will never make up for your lack of self-esteem, your demoralising self-beration and your continual self-rejection that is ruling your world beneath the surface.
There is no amount of external work you can put on - or pay for - that will cover up what you’re not addressing within.
How hot you look has nothing to do with how hot you are, and can be.
Hot is an energy.
It’s what you radiate when you are grounded in who you are.
Try this;
Think of someone you find insanely hot.
Go beyond their appearance and tell me 3 other qualities that draw you to them?
When you dig a little deeper, you will see attraction isn’t just about the physical - it goes beyond that.
You can acknowledge that most of us, as women (and men) go through a phase, or many, or still running one - where how you look is the priority.
You care more about whether you look fat or not, how much weight you’ve put on, what others think of you than you do your actual health.
You want the ideal, sexy, lean, aesthetic body.
The nicely crafted bootay, the flat tummy.
To strut-into-a-room-and-make-heads-turn.
To a degree these can be seen as taking great pride and respecting one’s body.
BUT -
When you attach your identity to a certain look…
When your value as a human depends on how you appear…
When your worthiness is tied a number on the scale or tag of your clothing…
When your look determines what you can or cannot do, what you do and do not deserve…
You are playing in dangerous territory.
You have been heavily conditioned to believe that you must achieve and maintain a particular look in order to be hot, sexy, desirable.
Somewhere along the line it’s then been fused with confidence, worthiness, value, happiness, freedom, inner peace.
As if being ‘hot’ equates to less problems, and an easier & happier life?!
And of course if you’re anything but that - you must just be ‘a worthless piece of crap who just can’t get your sh*t together and honestly just don’t deserve to be happy in the body you’re in, so what’s the point right?!.’
Sounds harsh, right?
Word for word this was what was recently shared with me.
How many of you are speaking to yourselves and your bodies like this?
How many of you are damaging your health to attain the ‘look’?
How many of you are so fixated on how you look over doing the real work that will actually create the difference?
Eliza Kate Bingham
